These sex positions will help you last longer and have more fun in the bedroom.
If you happen to be one of the one-in-three men between the ages of 18 and 59 that suffer from premature ejaculation, sex with a partner can carry an extra layer of anxiety.
- Will you reach orgasm too quickly?
- Will she be disappointed?
It feels like a crapshoot, except you’re the only one doing the shooting.
Fortunately, there are desensitizing sprays like Promescent and exercises like the squeeze technique, Kegels, or the stop and start method that can make a difference, especially over time.
What many men don’t realize, however, is that how you have sex can have just as big of an impact on how quickly you orgasm.
So, let’s take a look at the 12 best sex positions that will help you last longer in bed.
Best Sex Positions
Position 1: Cowgirl
How To Do It
Lie on your back.
Allow your partner to mount you, straddle your hips, and insert your penis from an upright position.
She can then ride your penis like a cowgirl riding a bull.
How It Helps
This is a sex position where giving up some control can really help you.
Your partner has almost complete control of the penetration, stripping from you the ability to thrust quickly and vigorously if the spirit moves you.
Make sure your partner knows to limit your pleasure and focus on her pleasure.
This will probably involve deep grinding and clitoral stimulation — the perfect break for your penis.
Difficulty Rating: 1
This is “Lazy Sex Exhibit: A.” All you have to do is lie there during sex and let her do the work.
Your partner will love it because it puts her in control of the sex session.
Position 2: Spooning
How To Do It
Both partners lie on their sides, your front pressing against her back like the spooning cuddle position.
You’re the big spoon, she the little spoon.
Your partner should separate her legs a little. Find her vagina with your hand, and enter her from behind.
How It Helps
The strokes available to you in this sex position will be very short, preventing you from making the long wild thrusts that push most men past the point of no return.
The short strokes target her G-spot, making it a great one for her.
Focus on grinding your hips against her butt, and consider stimulating her clitoris with your fingers.
If you can bring her to orgasm, it’s easier to feel good about your own orgasm whenever it happens.
Difficulty Rating: 2
Both of you are lying down, which you can do in your sleep.
However, getting the right angle can require a little hip manipulation, especially if your hips are differing widths.
Position 3: Side By Side
How To Do It
This is similar to spooning, but the partners face each other.
Lying on your sides face to face, your partner lifts the free leg and wraps it around your hip, giving your hips access to her vagina.
How It Helps
Both partners control how deep they thrust, resulting in a sex position that is both active and passive for both partners.
The man relinquishes some control, allowing him to focus on sensations while limiting how much he can thrust.
Difficulty Rating: 3
You’re still lying down, so you won’t have to tap out or anything. The challenge here is coordinating your thrusts and working as a team.
Position 4: The Yab-Yum
How To Do It
The man sits on the bed or the floor, and the woman straddles his hips, facing him, allowing him to enter her from the front.
How It Helps
This position has the advantage of being hard to maintain.
The man can’t thrust indiscriminately while holding himself up and his partner in position.
It’s a very intimate position, great for pleasing your partner and getting feedback from her reactions.
Difficulty Rating: 7
This position is awkward to maintain, especially if you have tight hamstrings or hips.
If you can’t touch your toes, you might find yourself having to prop yourself up on your hands or tuck your legs if you can’t extend them fully.
Either way, this position teeters on the verge of collapse.
Position 5: Non-Penetrative Missionary
How To Do It
Lie on top of your partner as in normal missionary, but do not penetrate her. Instead, rub the back of the penis against her vulva, clitoris, and perineum.
How It Helps
Most people never think to try this form of “outercourse,” but it can be a godsend for men who cum too quickly.
There’s still a lot of wetness and warmth, but the sensation is focused on the less sensitive back of the penis, not the front of the shaft and the head, where the most orgasmic stimulation comes from.
She loves it because she can grind her clit against the shaft.
Difficulty Rating: 2
Most men can find a form of missionary sex that they can easily maintain, regardless of their fitness and flexibility.
Position 5: Non-Penetrative Missionary
How To Do It
Lie on top of your partner as in normal missionary, but do not penetrate her. Instead, rub the back of the penis against her vulva, clitoris, and perineum.
How It Helps
Most people never think to try this form of “outercourse,” but it can be a godsend for men who cum too quickly.
There’s still a lot of wetness and warmth, but the sensation is focused on the less sensitive back of the penis, not the front of the shaft and the head, where the most orgasmic stimulation comes from.
She loves it because she can grind her clit against the shaft.
Difficulty Rating: 2
Most men can find a form of missionary sex that they can easily maintain, regardless of their fitness and flexibility.
Position 6: The Cross
How To Do It
Sorry for the flashbacks, those of you who went to Catholic school, but this has nothing to do with that.
It involves you lying on your side and her lying on her back, her torso at a 90-degree angle to your torso, her legs draped over your hips, her butt exposed to the front of your pelvis.
Thrust forward and enter her with your hips against the back of her thighs.
How It Helps
There’s not much range of motion for you to go nuts within this position, nor is it easy to thrust uncontrollably when your hips are at rest.
Difficulty Rating: 2
The angles available here are really versatile, and lying on your side is the opposite of strenuous.
Position 7: The Lazy Dog
How To Do It
Doggy style is usually an “end-of-sex” thing because with the man in control of the thrusting, depth, and momentum on his side (plus a great view), it’s nearly impossible to last long.
Prone rear-entry is a twist on doggy style that involves both of you lying down, you on top of her.
Think of it as missionary with your partner flipped over or spooning rotated face-down.
How It Helps
The depth of thrust available to you is greatly reduced, allowing you the fun of doggy style without the intense stimulation.
Difficulty Rating: 4
Figuring out where to put your knees is a challenge, and getting her hips at the right angle to your hips for you to actually enter her.
Most women keep their hips lower than they need to be.
Position 8: Woman On Top
How To Do It
Similar to cowgirl, the woman climbs on top of you but lies chest to chest, like an inverted missionary position.
How It Helps
This position allows the woman to envelop the penis deeply while restricting his ability to thrust.
She can enjoy the deep sense of fullness and can grind her clit against your shaft without the vigorous thrusting that causes you to lose control.
She’s in charge, so make sure to communicate with her if you are getting close and need a break.
Difficulty Rating: 1
Another chance to just chill on your back and let her do the work.
Position 9: Sit On The Throne
How To Do It
Sit on a chair and have her stand with her back facing you, then lower into a seated position on your lap, inserting your penis as she does so.
How It Helps
The woman has control and will usually grind against your hips, enjoying the deep penetration without long or fast thrusts.
She might bounce a little, but she gets enough squats at the gym.
Difficulty Rating: 1
If you can sit in a chair, you can do this position.
Position 10: Grinding Missionary
How To Do It
Missionary is one of the easiest positions to lose control of because you’re doing all the thrusting and have access to deep penetration.
Grinding missionary flips the position on its head by requiring you to thrust your penis deep and leave it there, grinding your hips against hers.
How It Helps
Without the long, intense thrusts, it’s easier to keep your penis from being overstimulated.
Meanwhile, your partner will love the front-action grinding. It rubs her clit while filling her vagina fully.
Difficulty Rating: 2
Most men know how to do some form of missionary, which is no different.
Position 11: The Standing Ovation
How To Do It
Find a nice comfy pillow she wouldn’t mind laying on. Make sure the pillow is near the bottom of her back.
This sex position requires him to stand facing her and towards the bed or table.
How It Helps
This position offers deep penetration and intimacy, and he has the option to thrust fast or slow, which also creates a great opportunity to take a break if needed.
This position greatly benefits her as the pillow will lift her pelvis slightly, allowing for deeper penetration and the opportunity to target her G-spot more effectively.
Difficulty Rating: 4
Positioning and getting used to the pillow may take a minute or two, but everything else is smooth sailing once that is comfortable and in the right place.
Position 12: Take A Kneel
How To Do It
Your partner lies on her back, as in the missionary position, with her legs splayed. You kneel upright, entering her missionary style from a perpendicular position.
How It Helps
You can not thrust as deeply from this position or with as much force as you don’t have the leverage of your free hips.
You are also in control and free to dial it back if things get too intense.
Moreover, the tension required to maintain the kneeling position can distract you from your pleasure just enough to delay orgasm.
Difficulty Rating: 5
Maintaining this kneeling position can be strenuous. You may delay orgasm, but this position can be hard to maintain.
